Love and Be loved

"We gotta find a way to love again, while the words are still there ringing in our heads."

When I was a freshman in college (I think it was that year), I came across a band called Satellite. One song that always made me think and continues to make me think now, is the song "Say the Words". Maybe this song always stuck with me because I knew I wanted to say the words I could never say, but I never found the courage to say them. 
The line above repeats in the song multiple times. It is important. We out trust in other people when we start to love someone. It's not even that we love a person. It's so much more. In order to love a person, you open up a vulnerability. You break the walls you spent so long carefully and tediously building. When you love someone, you are putting yourself at risk of getting hurt. You trust that person not to hurt you.

Unfortunately, we don't live in a utopia where you love one person and only one person. The thing is, this applies in so many more aspects than just romantic relationships. It can happen in friendships and familial relationships. People hurt you throughout your life, and it does suck. You can't let them dictate the rest of your life and how you live it. Maybe, you'll learn to not wear your heart on your sleeve. Or maybe you'll learn to not build the walls so strong. Maybe, you'll learn the good about letting people in, or, perhaps, the bad. There's two sides to everything. There will always be a good and a bad. One day, you'll meet the people who make the good outweigh the bad in every possible way. These are the people worth sticking around and trusting. These are the people who will be there for you no matter what, no matter how far apart you are or what is going on that day. It won't matter if you just talked five minutes ago or five weeks ago or even longer. It will feel like you picked up where you left off. It will feel like you could talk hours on end with this person. You can sit comfortably in silence. You can be the craziest version of yourself. You can be the most disgusting version of yourself. You can be the dumbest version of yourself. You can be any and every version of yourself, and these people will still be by your side to love you unconditionally.

Those are the people who are worth making you love again. Those are the people who will help you to heal all those wounds from before. Those are the people who will make life worth it. 

I'm not saying you won't get hurt. I'm just saying, love is strange. When you love someone and get hurt, that guard naturally goes back up. It's our body's defense mechanism. There will come a day when you will never have to put that guard back up. There will come a time when you build a wall around your heart but without the moat, the drawbridge, and the crocodiles around that wall. Eventually, you will learn to love again.

As one of my favorite authors says, "A purpose of a human life, no matter who is controlling it, is to love whoever is around to be loved." Love others, love yourself, and let others love you.

Just thought I'd put those words out there.

peace.love.happiness.